“The Giver”: A movie in Review

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Release Date: Friday August 15, 2014

Run time: 1 Hour, 34 Minutes

Starring: Jeff Bridges, Meryl Streep, Brenton Thwaites

MPAA Rating: PG-13 for mature thematic images and sci-fi action violence

Imagine a society where people did not remember war, racism and sadness. Picture a world where no one fought over social status or money because everyone owns the same things and lives in the same size house. Or, are the things that make humanity so self-destructive (lust, love, anger) the very emotions that make us human?  These are the questions that “The Giver” asks.


I’m a sucker for young adult novel adaptations (excluding Twilight…boooooo).  For fans of the genre, “The Giver” will hit a lot of familiar notes.  If one were not aware of the timeline, it might be tempting to accuse this movie of borrowing ideas from other source material.  For instance, as teenagers kids are assigned into their profession in a ceremony very reminiscent of “Divergent”.  The only thing is the source material for “The Giver”, a 1993 novel of the same name written by Lois Lowry, predates pretty much all of the movies that you might be tempted to say “The Giver” borrows from.

Even so, those works had the good fortune of making it to the big screen first and it is hard to watch “The Giver” without feeling like you’ve seen it before.  Movies like “Equilibrium” and “Pleasantville also explore a seemingly Utopian society that has thrown the good out with the bad with a hero who sees through it and must bring the rest of society to their senses.

Jeff Bridges plays the titular “Giver”, and although he is not the central character (that would be the “receiver of memories” played by Brenton Thwaites) he steals the show. This is a very personal project for Bridges, who has been trying to make this movie for 18 years, and it shows in his performance.  He originally intended to direct his father, who passed away in 1998, in the role that younger Bridges eventually took over.  Bridges plays the wise mentor well and is great to watch, as always.

Overall the movie is well cast and directed with a visual flair. Having not read the book (at least as far as I remember) I went in with no expectations and felt that it was reasonably thought provoking and enjoyable.

On my 1-10 scale with 1 being the worst, 5 being the best and 10 being the worst again, I give “The Giver” a 6.8942 with an emoticon based sub-ranking of: verrry interesting.

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Wellness Wednesdays: Let’s Chat About Gardening!

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Hello & Happy Wednesday, Everyone!  If you’re new here, welcome!  Allow me to introduce you to my Wellness Wednesday series.  Each week, I spend a few minutes chatting about something I’m doing to improve my overall health and wellness.  So far this summer I’ve covered a variety of topics from skincare to nutrition supplements.  One thing I haven’t touched on yet is the importance of eating whole, natural, real foods.

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A couple of years ago, after the birth of my daughter, I started to research what was in the foods that we were eating.  As she transitioned from a newborn to an older infant (especially when she transitioned from breast milk to solids), I knew I wanted to provide her with the best, most nutrient rich foods that I could.  My goal was (and is) to start her on a healthy diet so she doesn’t have to learn how to eat better as an adult (it’s hard, trust me!).

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Part of my goal to provide healthy, natural foods for my family included the desire to start my own garden with fresh vegetables and herbs but, until this year, I’ve never really gotten my feet wet with that particular part of living a more organic lifestyle. My love for sustainability, my desire to raise my daughter with an appreciation for home grown foods, and a yearning to try something new led me to plant my own garden in 2014 instead of waiting until I was “more ready” to dive in.

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I started out small, growing several of my plants in pots on my deck (I’m absolutely terrified of even the remote possibility of snakes in the yard) and I’m really happy with how well they’ve done so far this year.

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I started several of my plants from seeds (lettuce, summer squash, spinach, catnip, basil, cilantro, tomatoes, and a couple of other plants) and purchased a few starter plants (green peppers, jalapenos, and a supplemental tomato plant). Much to my surprise, most of my plants have done really well with the exception of a few that stopped producing once the Summer heat settled in.

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Even though my little garden hasn’t produced enough home grown goodness to supply my family of three with all of our produce for the season, I’m really happy with how much I’ve accomplished.  As a novice gardener, I wasn’t expecting my plants to do as well as they did on my first attempt. Needless to say, gardening exceeded my expectations and I discovered that I actually (really, really) enjoy spending time tending to my plants.  If I can grow vegetables, herbs, and flowers in pots on my back deck, so can you.  I truly believe that anyone with a little outdoor space can grow their own food.  Gardening is such an incredible experience.  It provides me with an appreciation for this planet and the amazing power of nature.  There’s something truly magical about creating your own food and I can’t wait to grow my garden again next year.

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I am excited to have a starter kit for my 2015 garden provided by my friends over at Ark. They provide 100% USA, heirloom vegetable garden seeds in 30 varieties with over 7500 high quality seeds. Their seeds are non-hybrid, non GMO, organic and come with a lifetime guarantee.  Ark is a company that I personally use and am happy to provide them with my heartfelt endorsement for anyone looking to grow their own food.  You can find more information about Ark and their products by visiting their Amazon listing.

Join Me For Rugged Maniac 2014 (Discount & Giveaway Inside!)

For over a year now, it’s been a goal of mine to complete a 5k obstacle course (mud run) so for my birthday last year, I asked for an entry into this year’s Rugged Maniac in Kansas City. I was elated to discover a note from my husband in my birthday card telling me that I would be participating in the event in 2014. Fast forward several months and we’re rapidly approaching go time! Even though I’m no where near “ready” (athletically speaking) for the race, I’m still going to get out there and enjoy the afternoon. With great friends (and amazing readers) to complete it with, I’m sure it’ll be a blast.

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I’m so excited to participate that I wanted to invite ALL of YOU to join me in the fun and my friends over at Rugged Maniac want to offer It’s An Ordinary Blog readers a generous 25% discount when you sign up this week! In addition, they’ve provided me with two FREE Rugged Maniac race entries to giveaway to a couple of very lucky readers so you can join me in the fun!

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  • The opportunity to hang out with me for a couple of hours, let’s get dirty together!
  • 25 FUN obstacles including a massive 50′ slide, underground tunnels, and fire.
  • An Awesome Rugged Maniac Shirt
  • Professional Race Photos
  • A Beer (Ages 21+)
  • The opportunity to have a near death experience (just kidding!).

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Online registration for this event closes one week from today and the race is scheduled for Saturday August 9th, 2014 at the Snow Creek Ski Area in Weston, MO. In order to take advantage of the 25% discount offered exclusively to It’s An Ordinary Blog readers, simply enter the code: OrdinaryBlog14 at checkout.

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TWO lucky readers will be joining me for FREE! To enter, leave a comment on this blog post telling me what obstacle you’re most excited about. You can earn an additional entry by heading over to the It’s An Ordinary Blog Facebook page and commenting on my Rugged Maniac post! I will randomly draw two winners on Thursday morning at 10:00am CST. As always, good luck and may the odds be ever in your favor!

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I Speak Italian (Sort Of) & So Can You!

Hello, friends! Take a look at that stunning image from a lake town in Italy.  I imagine the people who inhabit that beautiful place are friendly.  I imagine that the cobblestone streets are lined with small shops and that people sit outside of cafes, chatting about life while enjoying the company of their loved ones.  I imagine all of these things because I have never  actually been to Italy (at least not from what I remember).  In the late 1980’s, my family was stationed in Germany for a few years and we had the opportunity to travel throughout several countries in Europe but, since I was still a toddler, I don’t have many memories of our time living overseas.  The travel bug has bitten me and the only cure for it is more cowbell to either hop on a plane and go somewhere new or take some time learning about a culture from afar (with the hope of one day visiting).  For now, my only option is the latter.  From the rich history to the vibrant culture, I love all things Italy.

About a month ago, I was given the opportunity to learn something new. I was given the gift of learning the Italian language.  I will be the first to tell you that I was both excited and nervous about the prospect of learning Italian.  Having studied other languages in the past (Spanish, French, and Arabic), I am no stranger to the amount of difficulty associated with learning and the commitment it takes to become fluent in a language that’s different from your own.  While some may think I have an affinity for learning languages (trust me, I don’t), I wasn’t as confident in my own abilities.  Then I popped in my first Pimsleur Approach Italian I CD and I really felt confident that I could do it.  “Dear Universe,” I said, “challenge ACCEPTED!”

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Learning with the Pimsleur Approach has been an absolute breeze. The CDs, which total over 16 hours of learning, guide you through conversational Italian.  When you begin each section, you’ll spend a minute listening to a conversation (the dialogue increases in difficulty the deeper you are into the lessons).  Afterwards, the conversation is broken down for you part by part in a listen and repeat style manner which is easy to understand and allows just about anyone to quickly pick up the language (my three year old daughter repeats some of the words and it’s adorable).

I’m only about three weeks into my lessons but I already feel confident enough to at least introduce myself to an Italian speaker as an English speaker and to let them know that I don’t speak Italian very well.  My plan is to share my progress with all of you as I continue on through this first set of CDs so feel free to follow along with me (and keep me accountable for learning).  If you’d like to join in (it’s not too late!) and learn Italian with me, you can find more information about the Pimsleur Approach on Amazon.  I would like (and plan) to continue on through their more advanced language learning CDs and, hopefully, reward myself with a trip to Italy someday where I’ll feel confident having a conversation with a native Italian all thanks to the Pimsleur Approach.

Disclosure: I was given a generous discount on my Italian language CDs in exchange for using the Pimsleur Approach and discussing my experience on It’s An Ordinary Blog. All expressed opinions are uniquely my own and I wholeheartedly endorse their approach for my readers who are looking to learn Italian. Please feel free to connect with me any time if you have questions about this review.

“Lucy” In Review

Release Date: July 25th, 2014

Runtime: 90 minutes

MPAA Rating: Rated R for strong violence, disturbing images, and sexuality

Cast: Scarlet Johansson, Morgan Freeman

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Coming off the weird but intriguing “Her”, and the brilliant “Under the Skin”, Scarlet Johansson is on a roll. In “Lucy”, Director and writer Luc Besson (“The Fifth Element”) capitalizes on this momentum and uses Johansson’s considerable charisma and talent to carry the audience through a series of logic gaps where one’s ability to suspend disbelief is thoroughly tested.

“Lucy” follows the story of a woman who is accidentally caught up in a deal, and ends up being exposed to a drug which unlocks 100% of the brain’s capacity.  This gives her all sorts of abilities which I will not reveal, but suffice it to say that it gets a little silly.  Time is stopped, gravity is ignored, etc, etc.

The premise, that humans only use 10 percent of their brains and could unlock other planes of existence by tapping into the other 90%, is a myth.  People use pretty much 100% of their brains, just not at the same time.  You don’t use all your body’s muscles simultaneously either (unless you’re using this), but that doesn’t mean those muscles don’t get used. There is no reason to use the entire brain concurrently because you don’t need all the brain’s functions at once.

With that said, the idea that a drug could let someone tap in to the brain’s full potential is intriguing.  A similar concept was executed well in the 2011 film “Limitless”, and it makes for a fun story here.  While the action is obviously unbelievable and over-the-top, it is entertaining and Johansson’s performance makes it work.

It is a little ironic that it is necessary to turn your brain off to enjoy a movie about using your entire brain, but sometimes that is okay for a summer movie.  “Lucy” doesn’t necessarily bring the ongoing Johanaissance to a new level, but it doesn’t derail it either.

On the It’s An Ordinary Blog movie review scale from one to ten where one is the worst, five is the best, and ten is the worst again: I give “Lucy” a 7.829735623 with an emoticon based ranking of:  “YAY! Physics-free fighting!”

Welcome To Kansas City, Welcome Home!

I am a military brat so, naturally, I’ve lived in my fair share of places throughout the years. It wasn’t until after college that I found myself really searching for a place to call “home”. I’ve been in Kansas City for seven years now, and so much of my (adult) life has happened since I’ve been here that I truly feel like it’s a place I can call my own. I absolutely love life in Kansas City. Our town has so much to offer and it’s great mid-way stopping point for almost anywhere you want to travel across the country (at least that’s what I tell my friends when I’m trying to encourage them to visit).

I haven’t always felt this way about my city. The first year that I lived here, I was confident that KC was just a stepping stone to another place (Alaska? Ireland? Maine? Colorado?). Looking back, I suppose that was the military child in me who was used to being stationed somewhere different every few years. Part of the issue, though, was that I never made the effort to really explore what Kansas City has to offer. In the six years since, I think I’ve done a pretty good job at trying new things throughout the metro area and it’s really given me a deep respect for this town. My friends over at RelayRides recently asked me to share what I think some of the best “hidden gems” are here in Kansas City. In case you’re unfamiliar, RelayRides is a peer-to-peer car sharing network that connects travelers who are in need of rental cars with owners who are looking to put their otherwise idle vehicles to good use.

I spent a few minutes browsing through the listings here in Kansas City and compared them to what you might find booking through a big box car rental company. If you find yourself in need of a vehicle here in KC, be sure to check them out before your visit and, while you’re here, check out some of my favorite spots:

The Historic City Market

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Located in downtown Kansas City, The City Market has a lot to offer residents and guests alike. From their great casual dining options and the weekend market that features local farmers and unique vendors to the family friendly entertainment available in the area, The City Market is truly special.

A few years ago, through my membership with The Junior League of Kansas City, Missouri, I had the opportunity to take a behind the scenes look at how the year round farmer’s market works and absolutely fell in love. With a focus on sustainability, supporting the local economy, and encouraging Kansas City to be healthier, the farmer’s market is a great way to spend a Saturday or Sunday morning. While you’re there, grab a cup of coffee from City Market Coffeehouse or a pastry from Bloom Baking Co for breakfast and stop by Al Habashi Market for some Middle Eastern treats before you head home with your fresh, locally grown produce.

Westport

Westport Kansas City

Kansas City boasts a fairly broad nightlife scene which is sure to please just about anyone. Younger millennials who enjoy dancing, loud music, and overpriced drinks served in plastic cups will undoubtedly enjoy everything that Kansas City’s Power & Light District has to offer (“Yay! Shark Bar!!!”). The rest of us, the ones who enjoy a more down-to-Earth atmosphere, will find Westport to be a much more suitable option for an evening out.

From Blanc Burgers + Bottles (When you go, order the truffle fries, trust me) to Beer Kitchen there is an abundance of dining options in the area each of which provides incredible food and a wide selection of craft beers on tap. If you’re feeling particularly energetic in the morning, Beer Kitchen serves brunch on the weekends beginning at 9:00am. Included on their menu are items such as drunken donuts, green eggs and ham, and red velvet waffles. The drunken donuts alone are worth getting up early for (because we all know anything before 11:00 on the weekends is early).

Historic Small Town Downtowns (Liberty & Independence)

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Travelers staying in Kansas City might not realize how much history the area has and, although places like the Negro League Baseball Museum and the Jazz Museum are wonderful, the small downtown areas of Independence, MO and Liberty, MO are often overlooked by tourists. Both places, which are relatively equidistant from the heart of Kansas City, are rich in history and have nice downtown areas to explore. As United States History nerd, I particularly enjoy the connection between President Harry Truman and his hometown of Independence.  With the Truman Library and the Truman Home nearby, there is a lot of opportunity to learn while you’re visiting.

While exploring downtown Independence, MO a few months ago, we had the opportunity to eat lunch at a little place called Up Dog on the Square. Of particular note during our lunch was their Peanut Butter Bacon Dog, which we felt adventurous enough to split between our group. I won’t deny…it was actually really good.

These are just a few of my favorite lesser known places here in Kansas City but our town has so much more to offer. Even though I’ve been here for seven years, I feel like I discover new places and fall in love with KC again and again all the time.  The heart of the Midwest is my home and I hope that you all love it as much as I do.

Wellness Wednesdays: Let’s Talk About Skincare

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Hello, my name is Holli. I’m in my late twenties and I don’t take good care of my skin…

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Hello & Happy Wednesday!

As you know, on Wednesdays we wear pink talk about wellness.  This week, I want to talk about the biggest organ on your body: the skin.  As I inch closer and closer to my thirties, I’m starting to notice that my skin isn’t going to take care of itself and things that I could get away with (not wearing protection out in the sun, not removing makeup at night, not cleansing my skin as often as I should, etc) ten years ago simply aren’t going to fly now.  I’m well aware that I can’t altogether prevent the effects of aging but there are some things that I can do (and you can too!) to help maintain my youthful glow for as long as possible.

I will admit that the process of developing a skincare regime that works for me has been a bit of a learning curve.  I’ve never really known how to properly apply makeup, what order certain products are supposed to be used, or what all I need to help protect my face and prevent (prolong) the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.  Tonight, I want to share what I’m doing right now to help take better care of my epidermis.

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1. I Cleanse My Skin Daily

As skin ages, it starts to dry out and I’ve found that to be true especially for the skin on my face. I’ve been using a cleansing routine geared towards people who are prone to dry skin and I’ve found that it works really well for me.  The biggest takeaway is that you need to find out what type of cleansing product works well for you and use it daily.

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 2. I (Try To) Watch My Diet

If you’d approached me on the street five years ago and told me that eating diary (for me) would make me more prone to acne, I would never have believed you.  That’s because I didn’t understand the importance of eating the right foods to maintain healthy skin.  I discovered after the birth of my daughter that I am lactose intolerant (too bad I really, really enjoy a nice, cheesy pizza) and I’ve noticed that the less dairy I eat, the better my skin feels and looks.  I did a little research (and I encourage you to do the same) and learned that what you put in your body really does play a critical role in how your skin reacts.  #MindBlowing

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3. I’m Not Afraid To Try New Things

The most important thing that I’ve learned, when it comes to my own skincare, is to not be afraid to try something new.  There are so many products out there, each of which makes claims to help promote or prevent certain things and some work for some people while others don’t.  I approach trying a new skincare product with an objective point of view.  Just because I’ve tried a product that’s similar without success doesn’t necessarily mean that I would enjoy the new one.

I’m still relatively new to this whole “let’s take care of our skin because we’re almost thirty and it’s important so you don’t look like a 89 year old before you have to” thing and I’m sure I’ll have a more firm approach in the coming months but, for now, this is where I’m at. I would love to hear what you do to take care of your skin…feel free to connect with me in the comments or on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

Disney’s “Planes: Fire & Rescue” In Review

DisneyToon Studios, the division of WaltDisney Animation Studios responsible for “Planes” and a bunch of straight-to-video sequels that you never knew existed, is back for more cash with “Planes: Fire & Rescue”, which opened in theaters nationwide on Friday.

Planes: Fire & Rescue

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Release Date: Friday July 18th, 2014

Runtime: 83 minutes

MPAA Rating: PG for action and some peril

Cast: Dane Cook, Ed Harris, John Michael Higgins, Julie Bowen

Disney’s latest film set in the same universe as “Cars”, starts off where last year’s “Planes” left off. Although the film is more suited for younger audiences, “Planes: Fire & Rescue” is generally more successful than its predecessor in telling a compelling story that holds your attention throughout its relatively short screen time.

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Meet (again): Dusty Crophopper (still Dane Cook), a successful racer and an international celebrity. He’s amazing, incredible, people love him (until he starts telling the same stories over and over and over and over again for several years in a row).  That is all well and good until he breaks his gearbox and can no longer race.  After a fire in his hometown Propwash Junction, non-compliance on fire-safety regulations threaten to shut down the local airport. To save the airport, Dusty decides to become an aerial firefighter. The rest of the movie follows Dusty’s adventure as he learns to fight fires and puts his new skills to the test.

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While not as impressive as movies made by Disney’s Pixar, the movie is very visually appealing.  The fire and smoke add an extra dynamic to the action and the extended action sequences are genuinely enthralling.  I think what I appreciate most, though, is the reverence with which it treats its subject matter.  This film is, in essence, a tribute to firefighters and recognizes them as the unsung heroes who rush into situations when everyone is running (or in this universe, driving and flying) away.  The movie is surprisingly serious. It is long on action, short on gags, and the jokes that are there are not particularly clever or amusing; however, the story and the message that it conveys make this a worthy summer distraction for your little ones.

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Overall, on the It’s An Ordinary Blog movie review scale from one to ten where one is the worst, five is the best, and ten is the worst again: I give “Planes: Fire & Rescue” a 2.893485 with an emoticon based sub ranking of “hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm…aww.”

 

“Sex Tape”: A Movie Review

Moviegoers in search of Summer’s latest Blockbuster hit will be looking to head to the box office this weekend and, with a variety of movies slated to open spanning various genres, they’ll have their pick of the litter to chose from.  “Sex Tape”, starring Jason Segal and Cameron Diaz, looks like a promising Summer rom-com, but does it fit the bill?

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Wide Release Date: Friday July 18, 2014

Running Time: 94 Minutes

MPAA Rating: Rated R for Rated R for strong sexual content, nudity, language and some drug use.

CastCameron Diaz, Jason Segel, Rob Corddry, Ellie Kemper, Rob Lowe

Sex Tape Movie In Review

“Sex Tape”, which opened in theaters nationwide on Friday, follows the story of married couple Annie (Cameron Diaz) and Jay (Jason Segal) whose missing sex tape leads them on the adventure of an otherwise dull evening a lifetime.  Mommy Blogger Annie and her husband Jay have two beautiful children together and a seemingly wonderful life but, like so many others, they’ve lost the spark that once brought excitement and thrill to their relationship.  In an effort to rekindle their romance, Annie surprises Jay with an evening in…without the kids.  Fast forward to the next morning when Jay realizes that the sex tape they made the night before has traveled into the cloud (“ooooh, the clllloooouuuuddd!”).

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“Nobody Understands The Cloud!” Just kidding, here you go (you’re welcome).

Not only has the three hour documentary of what happens when parents stop being sober (polite) and start getting drunk (real) traveled up to the cloud, but it’s also been seen by someone…and Jay can’t seem to figure out who it is. The remainder of the movie follows the desperate attempts that Annie and Jay make to protect their image and retrieve the devices that contain their amueture adult film.

The film inspires a few laughs and has the makings of a good comedy but isn’t without its shortcomings.  When you take it at face value, coming in with little expectation (like I did), you’ll likely enjoy what it has to offer.  Audiences on the hunt for this season’s best romantic comedy, however, will find that “Sex Tape” misses the mark. I’m not going to lie to you, it’s a fairly ridiculous movie but it’s moderately enjoyable which is all that I think it was aiming for (hopefully).  After a slow start, “Sex Tape” picks up the pace in the back half of the film but tries to wrap up the story in a neat bow which is, perhaps, the biggest complaint that I have.

Overall, on the It’s An Ordinary Blog movie review scale where one is the worst, five is the best, and ten is the worst again: I give “Sex Tape” a 8.9348394 with an emoticon based sub-ranking of “Who does that?! I mean, really…” <— And you’ll have to watch the movie to find out exactly what I’m talking about (hint, it’s not about the sex tape).

Sex Tape Movie Review

Let’s Talk About The Moment…

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Hello, friends.

If you’ve been following along with me for a while, you’ve probably caught onto the fact that it’s pretty rare for me to share emotional, intimate posts. It’s not because I don’t love you all (because I do “awwww!“), I’ve just never felt entirely comfortable opening up to strangers on the interwebz (it’s a miracle I even have a blog, seriously). Something happened to me on Monday and it wasn’t pleasant. I had, what some might call, a moment.

I had a moment and I think it’s important to understand what’s been leading up to it…

My three year old is amazing. She’s funny, smart, quick, and loving but she’s also a human toddler which, by definition, also makes her a bit of an asshole at times. She’s been testing her boundaries a lot lately and I try to remain as patient as possible as she learns how to navigate through this big World but sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes I lose my shit cool and I find myself YELLING at a helpless little child who doesn’t really deserve my harsh tone.

I imagine, in those times, I look a little something like this:

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It’s not my child’s fault that I yell. It’s her job to learn, to grow, and to challenge me. It’s my job, as a mother, to love her unconditionally and help her grow, learn, and interact with other people. In those moments, where the inner sea witch in me is hurling her ugly face out of the water, I am the worst and those feelings of inadequacy come creeping back in. In those moments, I feel like the worst, most unfit mother to my daughter. Those kinds of feelings eat you alive.

We’ve had some challenging mornings lately where I’ve raised my voice more than I care to admit and so I was already feeling pretty down about my parenting abilities. On Monday evening when I started thinking about all of the ways in which I’m failing as a mom, life hit me like a ton of bricks. I just can’t do anything right.

I can pinpoint the exact moment that the overwhelming negativity invaded my mind. I was sitting at the dinner table and all of the sudden, the darkness settled in and all of the things that I’ve done wrong in my role as a mother, as a wife, a friend, a daughter, a sister, a writer, and a consultant hit me. In that moment, I felt pretty shitty.

So I had a come to Jesus talk with myself over a very long and tearful shower and I went over my choices:

  • Run away. 
  • Ignore my problems.
  • Deal with it and try to be better.

I realized that the only option I have is to deal with the issues (the yelling, the feelings of inadequacy, the shortcomings in my personal and professional life, etc) head on. I’m an adult so maybe it’s time for me to put on my big girl panties and face it. In the days that have passed, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting and I’ve come to one conclusion:

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I’m going to have days where I feel like the biggest jackass that’s ever walked the Planet. I’m going to have moments where I raise my voice when I need to remain calm (I am human, after all). I’m going to have times when I don’t knock off every item on my to-do list for the day and I need to be okay with that. I need to step back and realize that I am not competing against the mother of the year, the perfect spouse, or the ideal _____ (fill in the blank). I am competing against myself. Every day.

In those moments, like the one I had on Monday, I need to remind myself that I can’t change the past but I can always strive to be better in the future. Who knows, maybe you need that reminder too…