Welcome to “Mad About It Mondays”, a place to get that thing that’s been bothering you all week/day/night/month/year/your whole life off your chest. I want to try something new this week and, hopefully, every week going forward. I know that we all have things that annoy us. Maybe a driver cut you off on the highway and you wish you could tell them how you really feel or perhaps you went to purchase your favorite ice cream at the grocery store and they were all out or maybe you just need to vent. No matter what your story is, I invite to you to come along with me and share. I’ll post an Inlinkz link at the bottom so you can link up with me.
Finish this statement: I would be happy with my body (/with myself) if ____________________________________.
Warning: Things are about to get really real because I’ve got news for you…you’re never going to be happy. You’re never going to be perfect. Why? Because there is too much profit in a self-deprecating society. It’s everywhere, isn’t it? The idea of what society tells us is beautiful and the quick fixes (and sometimes not so quick, painful fixes) for how you, too, can achieve it. But the truth is, you’ll never achieve it because in the land of Photoshop and extensive editing, this beauty doesn’t even exist.
What happens when you confuse words like “healthy” and “happy” with “ultra thin” and “beautiful”? You get a society of women who think they’re not good enough. We all come in different shapes, sizes, backgrounds, hair types, skin types, etc. Why can’t we celebrate that? The fact of the matter is that beauty is all around us but we’re so focused on these unrealistic ideas that we can’t even see it.
I plan to be more active and it’s not because I think I would be happy if I lost 30 or 40 pounds and it isn’t because I’m unhealthy now (because I don’t have medical issues)…it’s because I aspire to be a runner and, right now, I’m not in good enough shape for that. My point is that we have got to stop letting society define what makes us beautiful. We have to start recognizing that those magazine covers aren’t real- they’re edited versions of reality.
So maybe you’re not thin enough for “society” (read: marketers) to say you’re beautiful or maybe your hair isn’t thick enough or you’re too pale and need a tan. Let’s just say you fix these “imperfections”. Then what? What’s next? There will always be something. It will never be enough. So why don’t we just focus on being healthy and content with our own lives? Let’s stop trying to be just like (INSERT MAGAZINE COVER PHOTO OF CHOICE) and be ourselves. What’s healthy and right for you isn’t necessarily healthy and right for everyone else. What works for you doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. Your health is something between you and your doctor and is, quite frankly, nobody else’s business. You are beautiful. You’re beautiful with the stretch marks, with the blemishes, with the thin hair, the wrinkled skin, with no makeup. You are good enough.
You might be wondering why this made it to “Mad About It Monday“. Well, because I’m mad. I’m mad that I see people who think they’re ugly when they’re not. I’m mad because I see people who are so amazing, who were born differently, and most of society will never call them pretty. I’m mad because I see beauty in this world and I wish more people recognized it, too. I mad because I want you to know that it isn’t the skin creams, the makeup, the hair products, or anything else that makes you a beautiful person…it’s who you ARE that matters.
You are beautiful.