Whenever I meet someone new I always wonder what their pet peeves are so I thought, for this edition of “Mad About It Monday”, I would list of some of mine…If you’re a regular reader (even if you’re not) feel free to chime in and comment with your own. You can also join in on the conversation on the It’s An Ordinary Blog Facebook Page.
I’ll start…here are my pet peeves:
- Loud Eating
- Bad Driving
- Unsolicited Advice
- Unnecessary Drama
Allow me to explain…
Loud Eating: I cannot (CAN NOT) stand loud eating. There is something about the sound of someone slurping, chewing, crunching, gulping, or shoveling food down their pie holes that absolutely drives me up the wall. This has been a source of contention between my husband and I for years and I really do feel bad that it drives me nuts but, in all honesty, I just can’t help it. Why does it bother me so much? I can’t help how irrationally irritated it makes me to hear other people eat.
- Please do us all a favor and chew with your mouth closed.
- Take smaller bites, you’ll enjoy your food more that way.
- Taking a sip of coffee or hot cocoa does not require sound effects.
Bad Driving: I’d like to think that I’m a decent driver. I also recognize that there are a lot of bad drivers out there. How some of them passed the required exams to get a license in the first place is beyond me.
- If the speed limit is 65 on the highway why on Earth are you driving 85 or 90?! Slow down. There is nothing worth risking your life or the lives of everyone else on the road so that you can get to your destination faster.
- On the other side of that coin, please don’t drive 45 on the highway. Not only is it unsafe but it’s also rude. If you can’t go within five miles of the posted speed limit on the highway- find another route.
- I will never understand why an accident in the opposite lanes of a divided highway backs up traffic in the direction not impacted. So you want to see the wreck?! Watch the news. When people slow down too much or stop entirely it causes traffic delays and other accidents. Knock that crap off and drive already, would you!?
- Even when it’s raining, it’s okay to drive. I promise.
Fibbing: This one is actually a big deal to me because I cannot stand lying liars who like to tell lies. I’m not saying that I’m perfect and have never told a lie in my life, I’m just saying that I believe that honesty is always the best policy. The worst kinds of lies, in my opinion, are fibs or white lies…ones that really don’t even matter. There’s a common misconception that those lies aren’t harmful because they’re somehow innocent. Well, guess what?! They’re not. Every lie is harmful.
We took a trip to Williamsburg, Virginia when C was six weeks old to celebrate my grandparent’s 50th wedding anniversary. The person who had called in the reservation for our group (I think there were about 18 of us) was bragging in the car on the way to the restaurant about how she had lied to the family in telling them that our dinner reservation was earlier than it actually was. Her justification was that if she had told the truth people wouldn’t have arrived on time. Those kinds of lies are really harmful to relationships because you really never know whether or not you can trust anything that person says. If they’re going to lie about something so insignificant, what big things are they going to lie about? Are they ever telling the truth?
The truth has a funny way of surfacing in time…that’s how life works. I would rather be annoyed or have my feelings hurt in the short-term than come to find out later on that someone hasn’t been honest with me. Once I find out I’ve been lied to, it’s hard to regain that trust. There will always be a lingering question of, “Is so-and-so being honest with me right now or telling me what he/she thinks I want (or need) to hear?” It isn’t worth it.
Unsolicited Advice: We were at Walmart a couple of months ago and C had a binky in her mouth. She was just over 18 months at the time and the cashier (who was probably 19 or 20 years old) proceeded to lecture me on giving her a pacifier. “There are other ways to do it, mom!” she said to me before she recommended that I give my child Orajel instead. I looked at her and explained that we try to limit orajel use because large quantities of benzocaine can be harmful to infants and toddlers. She told me that they wouldn’t sell the product if it was unsafe. What I wanted to say was, “Oh wow! So you’re a doctor? I’m so impressed that you’ve completed medical school at such a young age! So you’re just working at Walmart to help pay off your student loans? That’s cool. Thanks for the great advice!” but I really wasn’t interested in arguing with someone who A) doesn’t know my family and B) really isn’t qualified to be giving me parenting advice so I just said, “thanks for the suggestion”, thinking it would end there. Did it?! Nope. It sure didn’t. She then gave me the advice (that I’ve heard time and time again, mostly from older people) to rub alcohol on C’s gums before bedtime or to give her something else to chew on other than a pacifier. So…let me get this straight, it’s NOT okay to let my child have a binky but it IS okay to let her chew on something else?! Gotchya. That’s just one, small, example of people who can’t seem to mind their own business in public.
If I want your advice, I’ll ask for it. So something worked for your kids or grandkids fifty years ago?! That’s wonderful but it’s not going to happen. I get that you’re trying to be helpful but please mind your own business.
Mommy to One
Here is a list of things that you should never give advice (unless asked for it) to strangers on:
- Medical Issues
Unnecessary Drama: I don’t really think I need to elaborate much on this one since it’s usually one that most people can agree on. Let’s not make mountains out of mole hills. I’ve come to discover over the years that there isn’t much in this life that I actually do have control over except how I react to and handle those situations that life throws at me. For that reason, I’m learning as I get older, to just roll with the punches. Without going into much detail on the situation I’ll give an example:
When I was still working full-time, the husband and I were struggling to find time to just stop and spend time with C. Since she was going to bed at 8:00 every evening, we only had a couple of hours with her every day. Our weekends were spent trying to play catch up on housework, grocery shopping, and spending time with loved ones. For that reason, we implemented a “no technology” policy from 5:30 until 8:30 every evening Monday-Friday. We asked family and friends to call or text only in the event of an emergency (we still wanted to be available in case someone needed us). No big deal, right?! Well, apparently it was a huge deal and was very offensive and rude for us to even consider asking. I can’t tell you the amount of time I had to try to put out fires with the person who turned this small request into a massive issue. Totally ridiculous. It isn’t necessary so just stop.
To avoid drama:
- Take a deep breath
- Calm down
- Ask yourself, “who owns the problem?”
- Realize what you have control over in the situation
- Try to see things objectively
- Move on
What are your biggest pet peeves?