Welcome to Mad About It Mondays! If this is your first time coming across a MAM post, feel free to take a look at some of my most recent rants:
For a few weeks, I had invited people to ‘link up’ with me for Mad About It Mondays. It didn’t catch on like I had hoped (and that’s okay). Some people didn’t have anything to complain about (lucky ducks) and some would rather branch off and do their own version (which is fine, I’m just happy to have inspired people with my blog) and so I’m going to hold off on that for a while. My blog is still relatively new (just five months old) and so I’ll wait until it picks up some more steam to try again. In the meantime, I would love for you to share your links (if you have one) in the ‘comments section’. This week’s post is brought to you by MTV’s show “Catfish”.
I should preface this by saying that I don’t really watch a lot of shows like this. The only two ‘reality’ television shows that I really even like are Survivor and The Biggest Loser and since we don’t have cable, I don’t usually run across a lot of annoying programming anyway. Saturday Night Live, however, introduced me (sort of) to the show “Catfish” a few weeks ago when they ran a spoof making fun of this MTV show. In case you missed it, take a look:
When I saw that season one was on Hulu Plus, I decided to check it out. It isn’t often that I see a show that leaves me wondering what in world is wrong with people but “Catfish” does just that. At first, I thought that the people who had blindly participated in these online relationships (with people they’d never met) were complete morons but the more I watched the more I realized that the problem is in the compulsive, pathological liars who sucker innocent people into thinking they’re someone they don’t turn out to be.
There are a few things that I just cannot wrap my head around. First of all, if you’re involved in an online relationship with someone, why wouldn’t you do your research? Some of these people have invested years of their lives talking to someone online and on the phone only to be heartbroken when they discover that the person has been lying to them the entire time. Even when you’re armed with only an email address, phone number, and pictures, it’s not that hard to sniff out a liar when you take the time to fact check.
That’s the part of me that doesn’t always feel bad for the people who’ve been duped by these psychopaths. In the five, seven, ten years you’ve been romantically involved with someone, the thought has never even crossed your mind that they might be lying to you? The fact that they never send you recent pictures doesn’t raise a red flag? The fact that they’ve heard of Skype or somehow can’t use a free service that’s available with internet access and a web cam doesn’t make you a little bit suspicious? Really?! REALLY?!
The other part of me, perhaps the more compassionate part, does actually feel bad that these people get their hearts broken. Why on Earth would you pretend to be something that you’re not…for years!? It doesn’t even make sense. These people need help (clearly). I just find it odd that someone can exchange those three little words with another person and not feel the slightest bit of guilt that they’re being deceptive. Part of me believes that there should be some sort of law protecting people from going online, stealing images, and passing them off as if they’re your own.
Until that day comes (and probably long after still) there will always be those people out there who lie for no apparent reason other than the fact that they are lying liars who lie about stupid stuff. In the meantime, if you find yourself involved with someone online…do your research.