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Mad About It Monday: Marco Rubio & Water

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Since we’ve been out of town I’ve had a lot of opportunity to listen to my satelite radio and so I’ve heard most of the coverage detailing Marco Rubio’s response to President Obama’s State of the Union address. I have to say that I, too, am appalled by the sip.

CNN provided hours of coverage for what they’ve called “the sip seen around the World” and I couldn’t be more proud of them for the hours that they’ve spent covering the late breaking news. Situations like this need to be discussed. Let’s not waste time focusing on what he said because it really doesn’t matter…

CNN brought up an interesting point in that this sip could cost Rubio the 2016 election and I couldn’t agree more. If he can’t handle a dry mouth during a speech, can he really handle North Korea?!

The sip of water is a clear sign of arrogance. Why should the American people have to wait two seconds for him to rehydrate?! He obviously doesn’t value your time.

No Water

Perhaps this was yet another failed attempt by the Republican party to connect with American voters by pretending that they’re just like us

For Republicans who consider voting for candidates based on their politics and the changes that they can bring to this country, I urge you to reconsider.

Kudos to Wolf Blizter, Anderson Cooper, and their friends over at CNN for covering stories that nobody else gives a crap about. I probably would have voted for Rubio in 2016 but, once I heard about the sip of water, I said H2…uh oh.

I feel that CNN missed out on some important potential headlines and so I’d like to share some of them with you:

Could A Sip of Water Drown His Chances in 2016?!

Why Water? We’ll Have the Anwers America is Thirsting for Coming Up…

Did the Blunder Dampen His Political Career?

The Republican Response Dripping with Disrespect.

Outrage Pouring Out Over a Sip of Water.

A Sip of Water Overflowing With Arrogance.

*Please note the sarcasm in this post. Do I really think that CNN should have spent hours covering this story?! Absolutely not. My Mad About It Monday is this: These attempts to distract are ridiculous. Instead of focusing so much of your time on a sip of water (which other politicians have done) why not spend that time discussing what was actually said?! I mean, really…come on.

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Mad About It Monday: Facebook Edition

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It’s that time of the week again, where we can all sit back, take a load off, and discuss that thing that’s been raising your blood pressure all week. It’s time for Mad About It Mondays! Don’t forget to link up with me (details at the bottom).

I have a love-hate (mostly hate) relationship with Facebook but because I’ve got friends and family across the globe, it makes sense to keep it. Add to that the fact that I am a self-professed Facebook addict without a 12-step recovery program to attend, and I’m hooked. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t find certain things irritating. Today, I want to talk about one of those things…combined accounts.

I’ve been Facebook friends with someone for nearly four years and I didn’t realize until yesterday (YESTERDAY!) that he had a combined account with his wife. You might be asking yourself how it is that I didn’t notice that until now…I’m not absent-minded and I pay attention to detail but he was as sneaky as it gets with his account. Most people who account share have something that looks like this:

Person and Person Last Name

Person n’ Person Last Name

Person-Person Last Name

Person~and~Person Last Name

He’s different, though, because I was running under the assumption that the name in between his first and his last on Facebook was his middle name. Because, you know, people have middle names. It wasn’t until he posted a status using her name that I even realized what was going on.

My question is this: Why would you Facebook share? It’s not that hard to get your own account and, guess what, it’s free! I get that sometimes it might be easier to Facebook share when you’ve got pictures of your kids or if you’re an elderly couple who doesn’t really know how to use the internet but certainly you’ve got friends of your own that you’d like to keep in touch with, right?!

What bothers me about combined Facebook accounts is that you’re only able to put one set of information on your account (birthday, gender, education background, etc) so one person always ends up losing their “identity” on Facebook. It’s weird.

Here’s the thing…you want to have a combined account with your significant other? Fine. People might think that’s strange but it’s your prerogative. If you’re going to combine accounts, you should at least let people KNOW that you’ve got one. I’ll step off my soapbox now and give someone else a turn…who’s ready to link up!? Ready….set….GO!

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Mad About It Mondays: What Part of “NO” Do You Not Understand?!

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Welcome to Mad About It Mondays, a place where you can let loose and vent. Instead of posting that vague or passive aggressive Facebook status, join me and get that thing that’s been grinding your gears off your chest. You can find link up information at the bottom of this post. If you’re interested in playing catch up, you can find my last two MAM posts here and here.

Do Not Enter

What part of “Do Not Enter” is so difficult for some drivers to understand?!

I regularly shop at the Costco in my area. Costco, you might be thinking, a place for suburban families to spend their Saturday afternoons feasting on samples and spending entirely too much money on large quantities of batteries, milk at a very convenient price, and more cheese than you ever realized existed. Costco, you might be thinking…the place I would like to spend the apocalypse. But nay, I tell you, Costco is a hot bed for law breakers.

Our Costco happens to have a one way entrance for customers coming in from the East with a very clear “DO NOT (FREAKING) ENTER” sign for drivers who are already in the parking lot and yet, these derelicts drive through the one way street anyway. WHAT?! It’s horrible. It’s dangerous. It must be stopped.

Now you might be asking yourself why this is such a big deal. Well, I’ll tell you why…if someone is going to break such a simple, easy to follow law, what are they doing behind closed doors? Here is what I imagine these people are doing in their spare time:

Dirty, rotten scoundrels they are.

Dear Drivers Who Go The Wrong Way On The One-Way Street At Costco,

Here’s a little tid bit for you…you are not above the law. I’m not entirely sure why you can’t be bothered to drive the extra half block to the correct exit at Costco but, come on…really?! Most of you have children in the car. What kind of example are you setting for them? That laws are meant to be broken? No wonder we have a society of hooligan delinquents. Your behavior is a slippery slope. What’s next? Illegal U-Turns? Jaywalking?! Not paying the parking meter?!?! For the love of all that is holy, please stop. In case you’re not aware of what “Do Not Enter” means…

Don’t enter.

Do not come in.

Go the other way.

Find another route.


This is against the law.

You’re going to hit other cars.

Please, do us all a favor and start following the rules. While you’re at it, put those carts back. It’s rude to leave them in the parking space next to you.


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Mad About It Mondays: On Homosexuality

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Welcome to Mad About It Mondays. In last week’s post (which you can find here), I said that I wanted to start linking up with other bloggers for this series. You can find the link up information at the bottom of this post. All I ask is that you include a link to my blog on your page so that others can join in as well. In the meantime, this week’s post might be one of the most important topics I’ve covered on my blog and so if you’re reading this I ask that you please read this post in its entirety. I know this is controversial but I also know how incredibly important it is, so if you don’t have the time to read it all right now, save the link and come back later. That said, this week’s MAM is on homosexuality.

Late last week I ran across two posts, from two different people, on Facebook that discussed the topic of homosexuality. I’m sure you can well imagine what was said because it’s the same thing we’ve all heard time and time again. What bothers me about these two posts is that they both took the same stance of “because I am a Christian I think homosexuality is {fill in the blank: wrong/gross/sinful/etc}. One even went so far as to have a picture with the caption: “Because tolerance is for those with no conviction.” Whoa, whoa, whoa….hold the phone.

Being a Christian = / = being against homosexuality.

Being a Christian = / = intolerance.

I am tired of it and so I want to give anyone who thinks they can use their religion to bash or put people who are different from them down a little piece of my mind. Knock it off. It isn’t funny; It isn’t loving; and it certainly isn’t okay.

When you look at the Bible from its historical context, rather than viewing it as a living word, it stands to reason that the writers were heavily influenced by the societies in which they lived. These societies, like Ancient Egypt and early Rome, were constantly dealing with threats of a declining population.

The book of Leviticus, which has several verses discussing homosexuality, was written during (or directly after, depending on who you ask) the Babylonian captivity when the Jewish people were forced into exile. Paul, the only author in the New Testament to briefly touch same-sex relationships, wrote many of his words for the Christians in Rome. During his time, the Roman Empire was persecuting early Christian churches. Both of these times were instances where strong population growth was in the best interest of the target audiences of these scriptures. For that reason, it makes sense why certain practices (that could hamper population growth) were condemned.

All monotheistic religions, at one point or another, banned the consumption of pork. Unsanitary living conditions for livestock and the spread of food-bourne illnesses were a huge threat to societies. It wasn’t until after the laws of the New Testament that Christianity condoned the practice of eating meat from a pig. With the New Testament (read: death and resurrection of Christ) came a new set of laws. Those of the Old Testament, less the 10 Commandments, no longer applied.

Religions are great at answering life’s biggest questions: Who are we? Where did we come from? Why are we here? Where are we going? But all too often people use religion to push their own agendas (like the IRA in Ireland, Wahhabi Islam, and even the KKK). The words that really matter, the words of Jesus Christ, in the Bible never mention homosexuality at all. The rest are just allegories (because we know that Jonah wasn’t actually swallowed by a whale) and lessons to help sustain a population.

So what did Jesus say?

To love one another.

To respect one another.

Look inside yourself…Why are you intolerant? You don’t get to use religion as an excuse anymore. You don’t get to hide behind your faith to justify why you don’t believe same-sex couples deserve the same rights as heterosexual ones. So what is it?!

Fear? Hatred? A lack of understanding? Apathy?

When people have the same rights that you do, it doesn’t make your rights any less valuable. It doesn’t mean that your relationships don’t matter. Doesn’t everyone deserve to be treated equally?

Love is love and that’s all that matters.

I have always held the belief (and have been saying so since I was much younger) that I firmly believe the world can be a better, more peaceful, more loving place if we all take the time to sit down and listen to one another. The world can be a more beautiful place if we try to understand one another. Put the intolerance away and open your heart to others…you never know what you might discover about the world, about yourself, and about your faith.

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Mad About It Monday: Never Enough

Welcome to “Mad About It Mondays”, a place to get that thing that’s been bothering you all week/day/night/month/year/your whole life off your chest. I want to try something new this week and, hopefully, every week going forward. I know that we all have things that annoy us. Maybe a driver cut you off on the highway and you wish you could tell them how you really feel or perhaps you went to purchase your favorite ice cream at the grocery store and they were all out or maybe you just need to vent. No matter what your story is, I invite to you to come along with me and share. I’ll post an Inlinkz link at the bottom so you can link up with me.

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Finish this statement: I would be happy with my body (/with myself) if ____________________________________.

Warning: Things are about to get really real because I’ve got news for you…you’re never going to be happy. You’re never going to be perfect. Why? Because there is too much profit in a self-deprecating society. It’s everywhere, isn’t it? The idea of what society tells us is beautiful and the quick fixes (and sometimes not so quick, painful fixes) for how you, too, can achieve it. But the truth is, you’ll never achieve it because in the land of Photoshop and extensive editing, this beauty doesn’t even exist.

What happens when you confuse words like “healthy” and “happy” with “ultra thin” and “beautiful”? You get a society of women who think they’re not good enough. We all come in different shapes, sizes, backgrounds, hair types, skin types, etc. Why can’t we celebrate that?  The fact of the matter is that beauty is all around us but we’re so focused on these unrealistic ideas that we can’t even see it.

I plan to be more active and it’s not because I think I would be  happy  if I lost 30 or 40 pounds and it isn’t because I’m unhealthy now (because I don’t have medical issues)…it’s because I aspire to be a runner and, right now, I’m not in good enough shape for that. My point is that we have got to stop letting society define what makes us beautiful. We have to start recognizing that those magazine covers aren’t real- they’re edited versions of reality.

Perfection To-Do List

So maybe you’re not thin enough for “society” (read: marketers) to say you’re beautiful or maybe your hair isn’t thick enough or you’re too pale and need a tan. Let’s just say you fix these “imperfections”. Then what? What’s next? There will always be something. It will never be enough. So why don’t we just focus on being healthy and content with our own lives? Let’s stop trying to be just like (INSERT MAGAZINE COVER PHOTO OF CHOICE) and be ourselves. What’s healthy and right for you isn’t necessarily healthy and right for everyone else. What works for you doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. Your health is something between you and your doctor and is, quite frankly, nobody else’s business. You are beautiful. You’re beautiful with the stretch marks, with the blemishes, with the thin hair, the wrinkled skin, with no makeup. You are good enough.

We Are Beautiful Because We Are Us

You might be wondering why this made it to “Mad About It Monday“. Well, because I’m mad. I’m mad that I see people who think they’re ugly when they’re not. I’m mad because I see people who are so amazing, who were born differently, and most of society will never call them pretty. I’m mad because I see beauty in this world and I wish more people recognized it, too. I mad because I want you to know that it isn’t the skin creams, the makeup, the hair products, or anything else that makes you a beautiful person…it’s who you ARE that matters.

You are beautiful.

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Mad About It Mondays: When The Smoke Detector Chirps

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Close your eyes and think about the last time you had a really good night’s sleep…wasn’t it wonderful?! Sleep is magnificent, it’s incredible, and it helps keep us sane. I have really good hearing…read: ridiculously good hearing. My hearing is so good that I literally cannot go to sleep if there is too much noise in the house.

Now let’s rewind a few days to when one of our smoke detectors in the upstairs hallway started chirping…

We noticed it in the middle of the day (I shouldn’t say “noticed” since it’s pretty hard to ignore) but it stopped chirping after about ten minutes so we didn’t rush to the store to pick up a new battery. We happened to be out at Target that same evening and I mentioned to my husband the need to go ahead and get a 9-volt for when it started back up again. Energizer batteries were 6.99 for a pack of two at our local Target and while I didn’t think that was expensive, my husband did and so he insisted on waiting until we could find them elsewhere for cheaper.

Wrong move, sucker.


Shortly after midnight tonight, it started chirping again…and we don’t have any replacement batteries. “Good, great, grand, wonderful!”

I wholeheartedly believe that the sound a smoke detector makes when its battery is low is one of the most annoying things on the planet. I am hoping, praying, willing it to stop chirping so that I can get a decent night’s sleep. If you don’t hear from me for a while, it’s because I’ve gone crazy and have been committed to the local mental health institution. Wish me luck…



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Mad About It Mondays: Celeb Edition

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In case you’ve been living under a rock and haven’t heard yet: Kanye and Kim are going to have a baby. Baby Kimye is expected to make his or her arrival sometime in early June.

I will be the first to tell you that I’m pretty boring. I don’t have a television in my living room, I don’t subscribe to cable, I don’t get any of the “on trend” gossip/fashion/celebrity magazines, and I don’t really know who most of the up and coming, new musicians are. I’m not on the up and up and, quite frankly, I don’t really care. I think that’s why I find all this “breaking news” about the pregnancy of Kim Kardashian to be so incredibly annoying.

As a society, we’re so overloaded with the people the media tells us are supposed to be ‘role models’ for our children that we lose sight of the people who actually matter (no offense, Kim). Why on Earth is this considered breaking news? There’s a reason why I don’t have cable or magazines…it’s because I try to avoid it. That is seemingly impossible anymore because it’s everywhere. It’s on my Yahoo! page before I check my email, it’s all over Facebook, it’s on my “news” app on my phone. It’s constantly in your face.

Who would I like C to look up to when she gets older? Strong females who do what they can to positively impact the world around them. I want her to look up to men and women who use their brains, skills, and abilities to make a difference. I want her to look up to the real role models, like teachers, firefighters, police officers, doctors, nurses, farmers, and anyone else who does what they can with what they have to make this world a better place. I’d like C to focus on issues that matter like what’s going on in our community, in our state, in our country, and in the world.

I’m not saying that I won’t ever support her when she looks up to someone famous, I just don’t think their personal lives should be such ‘breaking news’. I can’t imagine how frustrating that must be for them…being constantly bombarded by photographers looking to get a shot of the latest non-existent ‘bump’ (she’s not very far along).

I’ll end this short rant with this…because I think that Kayne West is one of the more obnoxious celebs out there. I imagine that when Jessica Simpson delivers her baby in the hospital, Kayne West is going to show up just as baby is crowing and say, “Yo, Jess, I’m gonna let you finish but Kim had one of the best bumps of all time….she had one of the best bumps of all time.” Mark my words (okay, don’t mark my words) it’s going to happen.

PS: I saw this tonight at the grocery store:

It's Called Having A Baby

On the left you see a picture of a very pregnant Kourtney Kardashian (I swear, I’m not trying to pick on these sisters tonight!) and on the right you see her post-baby with the caption “44 LBS in 6 MONTHS! Kourtney shares her diet secrets”. Really?! REALLY?! SERIOUSLY?! If you’re going to compare a before and after weight loss shot, please for the love of all that is holy do not have the “before” picture of someone who is pregnant.

Step One: Get pregnant.

Step Two: Deliver baby.

BOOM. That’s all, folks.

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Why I Don’t Make New Year’s Resolutions

New Years 2013

If you’re a regular reader, you’re probably wondering where the Mad About It Monday series has been the last two weeks…in honor of the holidays, I wanted to take a pause from the sarcastic complaining and focus on other things. Have no fear, the series returns on Monday January 4th.

Today is the final day of 2012. In looking at my Facebook feed, there seems to be a lot of mixed feelings about the end of this year. Some are grateful for the things that have happened in their lives this year while others are ready for 2012 to be in the rearview mirror, never to be seen again. Personally, this has been a pretty good year for our family. We celebrated C’s first birthday in February and got to experience the many marvelous aspects of her journey from infanthood to toddlerhood. Parenting this year was, by and far, my greatest joy. As we embark on 2013, I look forward to making many more memories with her.

I wanted to take a brief moment today to talk about resolutions. Every year, I witness friends and family waiting until the New Year to make changes that impact their day-to-day lives. The resolve to make those changes is always stronger around the first day of the new calendar and, more often than not, that resolve weakens as the weeks and months pass. Gyms become less full by March and all of those wonderful goals vanish until the end of the next year, when that resolve comes back again.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we wait until a new year, the beginning of a new era (so to speak) to start what really should be started today? Why do we say that we resolve to spend more time with our loved ones, or visit the gym more often, or quit drinking, smoking, or anything else in our lives that needs improvement?

I stopped making resolutions at New Year’s because I think it’s important to evaluate where you are in life and what you should be doing throughout the year…not just when it ends. The fact of the matter is that we’re all on a clock and not one of us knows when our clock runs out so what are we doing wasting our time putting off the things that could be said or done until the New Year?

I think it’s great to make goals, I really do…and I have some goals that I would like to complete in 2013 but I wouldn’t go so far as to call them “resolutions”.

All that said, I wish you all the very, very best in the coming year. I can’t wait to share my life, my story with you.


Happy New Year,

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Mad About It Mondays: Hate Groups (Like WBC)

This post, like many of similar nature I’m sure, is very difficult for me to write. I heard yesterday on my way to the airport that the Westboro Baptist Church is planning to gather together to praise the loss of the children and adults at Sandy Hook Elementary school. Rumors are circulating (and I haven’t found anything on their website to confirm this) that they’re also planning to picket the funerals that are slated to begin later today for the 20 children lost in this massacre.

When I heard about this, I broke down. It’s bad enough that tragic events like this even happen but to celebrate the loss of innocent children is repulsive. These monsters, these poor excuses for human beings, disgust me. The families are, undoubtably, having a hard enough time coming to terms with the loss of their six and seven year old children but to have a group of people make a mockery of this nation’s right to freedom of speech is mind-blowing.

What bothers me most about what these people do is that they do it under the umbrella of Christianity, claiming to speak for god, claiming that these horrible, evil acts are somehow punishment for a “sinful” society. What in the hell is wrong with these people? I mean, really. Absolutely sickening.

I was able to find one article if you want to take a look:


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Mad About It Mondays: Gallimaufry Edition

Whenever I meet someone new I always wonder what their pet peeves are so I thought, for this edition of “Mad About It Monday”, I would list of some of mine…If you’re a regular reader (even if you’re not) feel free to chime in and comment with your own. You can also join in on the conversation on the It’s An Ordinary Blog Facebook Page.

I’ll start…here are my pet peeves:

  1. Loud Eating
  2. Bad Driving
  3. Fibbing
  4. Unsolicited Advice
  5. Unnecessary Drama

Allow me to explain…

Loud Eating: I cannot (CAN NOT) stand loud eating. There is something about the sound of someone slurping, chewing, crunching, gulping, or shoveling food down their pie holes that absolutely drives me up the wall. This has been a source of contention between my husband and I for years and I really do feel bad that it drives me nuts but, in all honesty, I just can’t help it. Why does it bother me so much? I can’t help how irrationally irritated it makes me to hear other people eat.

  • Please do us all a favor and chew with your mouth closed.
  • Take smaller bites, you’ll enjoy your food more that way.
  • Taking a sip of coffee or hot cocoa does not require sound effects.

Bad Driving: I’d like to think that I’m a decent driver. I also recognize that there are a lot of bad drivers out there. How some of them passed the required exams to get a license in the first place is beyond me.

  • If the speed limit is 65 on the highway why on Earth are you driving 85 or 90?! Slow down. There is nothing worth risking your life or the lives of everyone else on the road so that you can get to your destination faster.
  • On the other side of that coin, please don’t drive 45 on the highway. Not only is it unsafe but it’s also rude. If you can’t go within five miles of the posted speed limit on the highway- find another route.
  • I will never understand why an accident in the opposite lanes of a divided highway backs up traffic in the direction not impacted. So you want to see the wreck?! Watch the news. When people slow down too much or stop entirely it causes traffic delays and other accidents. Knock that crap off and drive already, would you!?
  • Even when it’s raining, it’s okay to drive. I promise.

Fibbing: This one is actually a big deal to me because I cannot stand lying liars who like to tell lies. I’m not saying that I’m perfect and have never told a lie in my life, I’m just saying that I believe that honesty is always the best policy. The worst kinds of lies, in my opinion, are fibs or white lies…ones that really don’t even matter. There’s a common misconception that those lies aren’t harmful because they’re somehow innocent. Well, guess what?! They’re not. Every lie is harmful.

We took a trip to Williamsburg, Virginia when C was six weeks old to celebrate my grandparent’s 50th wedding anniversary. The person who had called in the reservation for our group (I think there were about 18 of us) was bragging in the car on the way to the restaurant about how she had lied to the family in telling them that our dinner reservation was earlier than it actually was. Her justification was that if she had told the truth people wouldn’t have arrived on time. Those kinds of lies are really harmful to relationships because you really never know whether or not you can trust anything that person says. If they’re going to lie about something so insignificant, what big things are they going to lie about? Are they ever telling the truth?

The truth has a funny way of surfacing in time…that’s how life works. I would rather be annoyed or have my feelings hurt in the short-term than come to find out later on that someone hasn’t been honest with me. Once I find out I’ve been lied to, it’s hard to regain that trust. There will always be a lingering question of, “Is so-and-so being honest with me right now or telling me what he/she thinks I want (or need) to hear?” It isn’t worth it.

Unsolicited Advice: We were at Walmart a couple of months ago and C had a binky in her mouth. She was just over 18 months at the time and the cashier (who was probably 19 or 20 years old) proceeded to lecture me on giving her a pacifier. “There are other ways to do it, mom!” she said to me before she recommended that I give my child Orajel instead. I looked at her and explained that we try to limit orajel use because large quantities of benzocaine can be harmful to infants and toddlers. She told me that they wouldn’t sell the product if it was unsafe. What I wanted to say was, “Oh wow! So you’re a doctor? I’m so impressed that you’ve completed medical school at such a young age! So you’re just working at Walmart to help pay off your student loans? That’s cool. Thanks for the great advice!” but I really wasn’t interested in arguing with someone who A) doesn’t know my family and B) really isn’t qualified to be giving me parenting advice so I just said, “thanks for the suggestion”, thinking it would end there. Did it?! Nope. It sure didn’t. She then gave me the advice (that I’ve heard time and time again, mostly from older people) to rub alcohol on C’s gums before bedtime or to give her something else to chew on other than a pacifier. So…let me get this straight, it’s NOT okay to let my child have a binky but it IS okay to let her chew on something else?! Gotchya. That’s just one, small, example of people who can’t seem to mind their own business in public.

Dear Strangers,

If I want your advice, I’ll ask for it. So something worked for your kids or grandkids fifty years ago?! That’s wonderful but it’s not going to happen. I get that you’re trying to be helpful but please mind your own business.


Mommy to One

Here is a list of things that you should never give advice (unless asked for it) to strangers on:

  • Finances
  • Parenting
  • Medical Issues
  • Relationships
  • Pregnancy

Unnecessary Drama: I don’t really think I need to elaborate much on this one since it’s usually one that most people can agree on. Let’s not make mountains out of mole hills. I’ve come to discover over the years that there isn’t much in this life that I actually do have control over except how I react to and handle those situations that life throws at me. For that reason, I’m learning as I get older, to just roll with the punches. Without going into  much detail on the situation I’ll give an example:

When I was still working full-time, the husband and I were struggling to find time to just stop and spend time with C. Since she was going to bed at 8:00 every evening, we only had a couple of hours with her every day. Our weekends were spent trying to play catch up on housework, grocery shopping, and spending time with loved ones. For that reason, we implemented a “no technology” policy from 5:30 until 8:30 every evening Monday-Friday. We asked family and friends to call or text only in the event of an emergency (we still wanted to be available in case someone needed us). No big deal, right?! Well, apparently it was a huge deal and was very offensive and rude for us to even consider asking. I can’t tell you the amount of time I had to try to put out fires with the person who turned this small request into a massive issue. Totally ridiculous. It isn’t necessary so just stop.

To avoid drama:

  • Take a deep breath
  • Calm down
  • Ask yourself, “who owns the problem?”
  • Realize what you have control over in the situation
  • Try to see things objectively
  • Move on

What are your biggest pet peeves?