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The Funky Mommy

As you may have noticed, I’ve been ignoring my blog lately. Not only that but I’ve also been less active on my personal social media accounts, haven’t been interested in keeping up with what’s going on around the world (something happened in Egypt, right?!) and I’ve been in somewhat of a funk. The worst part of is that I couldn’t even begin to tell you what’s caused this. It’s not that I’ve been depressed or that anything in particular has happened because neither of those are the case.

I feel like my life is at a crossroads. I’m approaching 30, have a toddler who will inevitably start to ask questions about life in the near future, and I have no definitive answers to give her. I feel lost. I feel confused. For the first time in my life, I feel like I’m going through a bit of an existential crisis. I watched a Ted Talk the other night about the importance of being a twenty-something and it really rang true. So much of my life, especially in terms of how I view the World, has changed over the last seven years. Now I feel like I’m in a defining moment. I need to figure out who I am, what I stand for, and what kind of legacy I want to start working on to leave behind one day down the road (hopefully a legacy I’ll have another 60 or 70 years to work on).

I’m certain I’m not the only person, or parent, who has ever struggled with this issue (What do I believe? How do I convey that to my child as she grows?)  and you’d think I would have this figured out by now. As I work towards getting out of this funk I’m in, I’ll keep you guys updated. I’m committed to getting back into the swing of things in terms of my blog and keeping up with it but I also felt that it was important (and necessary) to explain why I’ve been MIA lately.

Until next time…

Daily Life, Parenting, Rants

Mad About It Monday: Oh, It’s Okay…I Didn’t Really Want to Sleep Tonight Anyway.

Welcome to Mad About It Monday

Because passive aggressive Facebook status updates were so yesterday…

Mad About It Mondays

New here?! You can find some of my most recent MAM posts by clicking the links below:

Marco Rubio & Water

Lies and The Lying Liars Who Like To Tell Them

Never Enough

Today I want to talk about my beautiful, kind, loving daughter and the one thing she’s been doing lately that really just grinds my gears. I might not be winning mother of the year but there’s very little that I can’t handle when it comes to parenting. Not getting sleep, however, is one of those things. Somewhere between the joys of her second birthday party and two days ago she learned (and coined) the phrase: “I don’t want to _________” followed, usually, by “take a nap,” or “go to bed,” or “lay down”. *Facepalm

She works herself into such a frenzy about the possibility of sleeping that she actually seems to catch a second wind. At a certain point, toddlers who haven’t gotten enough sleep actually have trouble sleeping and that’s definitely true for my little one. It isn’t from a lack of effort on our part…we go through all of our normal bedtime steps with C right down to the same goodnight hugs and kisses we’ve been doing for months. Last night was the first night in a while that she actually went to sleep without a headache and it was glorious but again today the no-sleep monster attacked again during naptime leaving me wondering where to go from here.

Naptime used to be glorious.  Not that I don’t cherish my time with her (I do) but it was the one time during the day that I could get some cleaning done around the house, maybe catch up on some TV that the husband doesn’t care about, or maybe even (gasp) take a shower.  Even on the days where she was a little resistant, sometimes we would snuggle together and we would both take a nap, and that wasn’t so bad either.

No longer.  Now “naptime” (quotes are needed because no napping actually takes place) is a time where my child repeatedly screams the aforementioned phrases of doom while throwing her pillows, blankets, and stuffed animals out of her crib and then begging me to come give them back to her. Sometimes, she even takes off all of her clothes in protest (read $#!* Happens). Fun times.

She’s only two years old…barely two years old at that, so how in the world have we already given up daytime napping?! It isn’t possible and I refuse to accept it. Every child is different but for C, fear of going to sleep seems to stem from not wanting to be away from mommy and daddy. I know that seperation anxiety seems to rear it’s ugly head again around this age and so I’m trying (with all the patience I have in me) to understand that and work with it but that night time wakefulness is driving me up the wall.

I’ve got a few ideas I plan to test out this week and I’ll definitely update and let you guys know what works for us and what doesn’t. In the meantime….I may try to get what little sleep I’m able to before my child wakes up again. Wish me luck! Zzzzz….

Culture, Daily Life, Health & Wellness, Parenting, Society

The Importance of “Me Dates”

Me Dates

 

To say that my daughter was challenging would be an absolute understatement. It doesn’t help that our household has been plagued with some sort of freak virus this week and we haven’t been able to go out for playdates or stick to the routine that we’ve established over the last few months. I guess I shouldn’t have been shocked by C’s behavior, a mix of cabin fever, not feeling well, and perhaps the “terrible twos” created the perfect storm.

At one point, she threw herself on the ground and was kicking and screaming and crying so much that I wasn’t even sure what was going on anymore. Was this really over blueberries, or wanting a different cup at the table, or getting upset because I had to use the bathroom, or because she didn’t want to take a nap, or because the dog came too close to her, or any of the other things that set her off yesterday? I get that, because toddlers don’t have the vocabulary to verbalize their wants and needs to adults, they’re going to vocalize their frustration through temper tantrums but even with that knowledge, it doesn’t make dealing with that behavior any easier.

For that reason, it’s so important for parents (those who stay at home full-time in particular) to take some time for themselves. I’m not talking about that five minutes once a month that we get to use the restroom by ourselves…I mean some actual “me time” or, what I like to call, a Me Date. You have date nights with your spouse so that you can keep that fire alive so why should taking time for you be any different? Last night I decided to do something I’ve never done before…

After the husband came home from work, I got ready and decided to head out for my “Me Date”. Part of me felt guilty (welcome to the world of being a mom, right?!) for leaving the house because I felt like I was escaping the day but I knew it was something I had to do. I drove over to Target to pick up a few things that we needed around the house and then took myself out to dinner. I have never, in my life, eaten at a restaurant by myself. It was a strange feeling and I’ll admit that it was uncomfortable at first but armed with my Sudoku book and a pen, I took on the challenge and discovered that it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. It was actually really nice.

For an hour and a half last night I didn’t have to worry about anyone but myself and even though it was something so simple as running an errand and grabbing a bite to eat, I felt that it was exactly what I needed and so I wanted to encourage you to do the same. I know it isn’t easy to set aside time for just you (because there’s always someone else you could be spending time with) but it really is important and, at the end of the day, it sets a great example for your children. I’m not sure when my next “me date” will be or what I’ll do (maybe I’ll try watching a movie) but I know that it’s something that will happen again and I’ll try not to wait until we have a bad day at home to do it.

How do you set time aside for yourself?